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My Parents and My Childhood
A Memoir of Robert and Alma (Ream) Sands

By Doris (Sands) Hawker

 

   

Alma and Robert Sands

My father, Robert A. "Cricket" Sands, was born and raised in Confluence, PA, on Sterner Street.  He was the oldest of five children, three boys and two girls.  His father died of sugar diabetes when he was 16 years old, leaving my grandmother with five children to raise.  

Being that my father was the oldest, he had to quit school and get a job to help out.  He would give most of his paycheck to his mother to help raise his brothers and sisters.

My mother, Alma Leora Ream, was the daughter of Joseph and Sadie (Harbaugh) Ream and also was born and raised in the Confluence area.

My parents met and dated a short time and were married during the Depression, January 11, 1930.  They set up housekeeping in a downstairs apartment at Jones Avenue in Morgantown, WV. 

 

Cricket (lower left), Confluence baseball team

It was later discovered that my future husband, Jack Hawker, had later lived in the same house with his family.  We were visiting my parents and looking at family pictures in an old album, when Jack recognized the house and asked my mother the address, they were the same.

My sister Virginia was born at Quataba, W.Va., which is where my parents lived later.  Quataba was a small area just outside of Morgantown.  They named her Virginia because they were living in West Virginia at the time.  She was born February 24, 1931.

Due to the Depression of 1929, times were tough for a lot of years.  As a result of the tough times my parents had to move back to Confluence.  My grandfather Joseph Ream gave them a piece of property in which to build a house. My father built most of it by himself. It was a small story and a half house (seen here), and the only home I remember.

 

The Sands home

I was born Sept. 1, 1938. We did move to Connellsville, PA, for a short time when I was around five years old where Dad worked on the railroad. We left the house empty while in Connellsville, but returned later.  

From that time on, most of Dad's jobs took him away from home, and he only returned on the weekends. My mother, sister and I stayed at home and took care of everything.

My parents had three children. There was a girl between Virginia and me, but she was miscarried. The little girl was a tubal pregnancy and was unable to be brought to term. Mother said it looked just like my Dad. My father had hoped with each pregnancy that he would get a little boy, but by the time I arrived he began to give up and made a tomboy of me.

 

Robert (front row, holding stick) with fellow railroad laborers

 

 

Alma in later years

~ Postscript ~

Cricket (1907-1988) was born on Aug. 18, 1907 in Ohiopyle, Fayette County, the son of John and Nora (Sterner) Sands. 

He earned a living over the years working as a laborer in the railroad, mining and concrete form industries. He obtained his Bituminous Miner's Certificate of Competency and Qualification at Quecreek, Somerset County on March 26, 1945. He also was a member of the Carpenters Local Union No. 2274, joining in 1946 and completing 40 years of membership.

He died on April 10, 1988, at the age of 81. Rev. John R. Wilson led the funeral service at the Sands Cemetery.

Alma passed away at the age of 90 on June 9, 1999 in the Henry Clay Villa in Markleysburg, PA. 

Interment was in the Sands Cemetery, with Rev. James Thompson officiating.

 

The Robert and Alma Sands family, 2009

 

 

Virginia Rederick Lemmon

~ Daughter Virginia Elaine (Sands) Rederick Lemmon ~

Daughter Virginia Elaine Sands (1931-2002) was born in on Feb. 24, 1931 in Quataba near Charleston, Kanawha County, WV. She was seven years older than her sister Doris. 

In 1947, at the age of 16, she was united in marriage with a cousin, 24-year-old Ralph Ray Rederick Jr. (1923-1987) of the family of Thomas and Barbara (Haines) Ream Sr.

The couple produced one daughter, Mary Jane Black.

 

Ralph Ray Rederick

Ralph was a veteran of World War II. In October 1941, less than two months before the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor, he was stationed in the Panama Canal Zone.

The couple produced a daughter but divorced within a year of their marriage.

On Aug. 24, 1954, she was wedded for a second time to James Martin (1932-living).

The Martins relocated to Perry, Lake County, OH in about 1957. They produced two more daughters, Teresa Brewster and Roxann Rostocil. James treated his step-daughter Mary Jane as his own, but an adoption never took place.

Their marriage lasted until the late 1970s. James later wedded Barbara and resided in Perry circa 2018.

Virginia's first husband Ralph Rederick served in the U.S. Armed Forces during the Korean War. He relocated to Madison, Lake County near where his daughter made her home. He passed away on Christmas Eve 1987 at the age of about 64. His remains were returned to Somerset County to rest in the Jersey Baptist Church Cemetery.

For a third time, Virginia married, this time to Marvin Lemmon ( ? - ? ). Their nuptials were held on Sept. 3, 1971. That marriage ended in divorce after a few months.

 

Mary Jane Black

Virginia made her home in Perry until her death on Nov. 10, 2002, at the age of 71. Her remains were returned to southwestern Pennsylvania to rest in the Sands Cemetery near Ohiopyle.

Daughter Mary Jane Rederick (1947-2018) was born on March 24, 1947 in Confluence, Somerset County. On July 14, 1968, when she was 21 years of age, Mary Jane was united in wedlock with 22-year-old Thomas Black (1946-living). They resided for rmany years in Madison, Lake County, OH. The couple produced two children -- Michelle Black-Couch and Bryan Black. After graduation from Perry (OH) High School, Mary studied cosmetology at Lake Erie School and made a living for 38 years as a beautician in Lake County, OH. Her life "was a living example of love and loyalty for her family," said one of her relatives. "Mary was a loving and dedicated wife, a loving and committed mom, eldest sister, aunt and loyal friend. Mary was deeply committed to her faith in Christ, a member of Bible Baptist Church where she served Christ and his community for many years, and prayer was a way of life for her. She took pride and joy in her home where she cooked up amazing meals and tended her lovely gardens. Mary enjoyed spending her time cooking, gardening, adoring her cats (Kitsu), listening to music, & was an avid reader, especially enjoying mystery novels." Sadly, having become seriously ill, she was admitted to University Hospital in Geneva, OH, where she passed into eternity at the age of 71 on May 2, 2018. Interment was in Madison Memorial Cemetery.

  • Granddaughter Michelle Black married Russell Couch. Their home in 2018 was in Beaver Falls, Beaver County, PA.
  • Grandson Bryan Black resided in 2018 in Eastlake, OH and was married to or a partner of Kerre Ovens.

 

Thomas and Mary Jane Black and family

 

Daughter Teresa Martin married Rick Brewster. Their home in 2018 was in Perry, OH.

Daughter Roxanne Martin wedded Wayne Rostocil. In the late 2010s, they lived in Perry, OH.

 

Doris and Jack Hawker

~ Daughter Doris Lucille (Sands) Hawker ~

Daughter Doris Lucille Sands (1938-living) was born on Sept. 1, 1938 near Confluence. 

On June 4, 1966, at the age of 27, she married 35-year-old widower Jack Donald Hawker (May 23, 1931-2005), a native of Gladesville, WV and the son of William G. Hawker.

Jack and his first wife Merle Marie (White) Hawker ( ? -1964) produced three children whom he brought into to the union with Doris -- Michael J. Hawker, Richard Walter Hawker and Connie Darlene Gibson. 

Doris and Jack had one daughter of their own, Lisa Lynn Lizzie-Ann Janoske.

During the Korean War, Jack served as a fireman with the U.S. Navy.

Heartache shook this family on March 21, 1990 when son Michael died in Fairmont, Marion County, WV at the age of 36.

Following in the footsteps of her grandfather Joseph Ward Ream in the 1920s, Doris was elected treasurer of our national Minerd-Minard-Miner-Minor Reunion in 2001. She and her daughter Connie have helped with preparations and decorations on reunion day for several years. Doris has lent her creativity to our annual events with colorful quilts, table settings and plantings.

 

Left: Doris with Jack and baby Lisa. Right: with daughter Connie, 2009 reunion

 

Sadly, burdened with congestive heart failure and pneumonia, Jack passed away on Aug. 8, 2005 at the age of 74. His remains were placed into rest in Mount Calvary Cemetery in Morgantown.

Son Michael J. Hawker (1954-1990) was born on Nov. 15, 1954 in Morgantown. He passed away at the age of 36 in Fairmont, Marion County, WV on March 21, 1990.

Son Richard Walter Hawker (1956- ? ) was born in 1956.

Daughter Connie Hawker (1957-living) was born in 1957. On Sept. 25, 1976, she was united in matrimony with Larry Dale Gibson (1954- ? ). They produced a family of children, among them -- Eric Gibson, Michael Gladon, Rachael Gibson and Megan Gibson. Connie lives in Manassas and has assisted her mother at our national family reunions over the years.

Daughter Lisa Lynn Lizzie-Ann Hawker (1967-living) was born in 1967. She is a member of the West Virginia Country Music Hall of Fame in Fairmont, WV. She started singing at the age of three and has been going strong for four decades. Her early teachers were known to say, "Give her a stage, and she'll perform on it." On Aug. 24, 1991, she wed William Edwin "Bill" Janoske (1952-living). The nuptials were held in Morgantown. They reside in Garrett County, MD and have two children, Jena Janoske and Jack Janoske. In October 2009, Lisa and Jena Janoske joined 155 other participants in a performance of Michael Jackson's Thriller dance as a fundraiser for House of Hope in Garrett County, MD. In the process, they not only raised more than $30,000 but also coordinated their dance with 300 cities in 32 countries around the world to establish a record in the Guinness Book of World Records.

 

 

Lisa (Hawker) Janoske and daughter Jena take part in worldwide Thriller dance at Halloween 2009 to set a record in theGuinness Book of World Records. Below, Lisa and her bass gracing the stage.

 

Lisa made her first stage appearance at seven with her father's band, The Royal Tones, at the Westover Fair near Morgantown. Even at a young age, she performed at Applachia Lake in Bruceton Mills with Nashville stars such as the Hagar Twins from Hee Haw, Doyle Holly, the Statler Brothers, Ronnie Milsap, Tanya Tucker, Herb Humphrey and Lynn Anderson. In addition to her father, she counts her mentors and teachers over the years as Jack "Tiny" Waycaster, Don Corbin, Bob "Tootie" White, and Dick and Kelly Choma. She also has been a leader in the music business as the youngest member to hold office on the board of directors of the American Federation of Musicians Union in Morgantown. In 2009, Lisa and her daughter Jena joined 155 others in a performance of Michael Jackson's Thriller dance to benefit House of Hope in Garrett County, MD. In the process, they not only raised more than $30,000 but coordinated their dance with 300 cities in 32 countries to establish a record in the Guinness Book of World Records. Today Lisa performs for Brenda's Body Shop dance company in Garrett County, MD and with her husband Bill is a member of the house band at Sagebrush Round-Up, a music hall in Bunner Ridge near Fairmont, WV which also houses the hall of fame. She has produced her own show, Honor Thy Legends, paying tribute to George Jones and Tammy Wynette. She is employed as a guidance secretary with the Garrett County Board of Education, is a Sunday School teacher and youth leader and enjoys using her music and dance to raise money for charity. She is the mother of two, Jena and Jack.

 

~ More ~

Click to read a memoir of Alma Sands' parents, Joseph and Sadie (Harbaugh) Ream.  Click to read Doris Hawker's special memoir about "Unusual Experiences in Life." Click to visit her website featuring homemade quilts. Click to visit the website of her daughter and son in law, Lisa and Bill Janoske, country musicians performing in Maryland and West Virginia.

 

Copyright 1999, 2016, 2018 Doris (Sands) Hawker and Mark A. Miner

Republished with permission